I Told You So
I’ve talked about the set of Daddy-Daughter books which was Daddy’s birthday gift. Gia absolutely adores all these books and you can find them here, here and here (This is not a sponsored post, I am not getting a commission if you do buy these books) I just know after reading this, someone is going to call me and ask me for the names, so there you go. Feel free to steal the idea and yes you can thank me later.
Of the lot, her favorite is Because your Daddy loves you. It talks about how when the little girl does something childlike, like lose her shoe, her Daddy could say “You should put things where they belong” but he doesn’t, he just helps he look for it or when she gets her hands sticky with ice cream; he could say “Now look what you’ve done.” but he doesn’t. He just wipes her fingers for her.
Sweet. Very very sweet I agree. BUT a wholly unrealistic expectation from any normal parent isn’t it? Let’s look at an average day in the life of a parent. We already know what’s going to happen. Comes with age and maturity and life experiences We tell our kids not to do something, they go ahead and do it anyway and then as parents we get to deal with the effects of their said act. “I TOLD YOU SO!” is the only gratification I have when things go exactly as I predicted and therefore is only a natural progression of things isn’t it? I mean c’mon, the only way I can practically guarantee my daughter will do something, is if I tell her not to do it.
Growing up, in my books the single most annoying phrase ever used by my parents was “I told you so!” I heard it a million times and yet I never thought it was pertinent to listen to what my mom had to say about pretty much anything.
I get it now, my house is littered with “I told you so’s”. The stain on the carpet from when Gia thought it was wise to eat ice cream standing up rather than while seated on her highchair. The lost Hello Kitty sock of her favorite pair from when she though it was a good idea to walk around with socks on her hands. And her broken drum set from when she thought it was ok to sit on the drum. They are all examples of “See mommy does know best” but I love them because of what they stand for; a tiny rebellion inside a child’s mind, a need to understand how things work and a desire to learn her own life lessons.
I finally get it, that a parent feels very little smugness when they say “I told you so!”. It’s just a nice way of saying “Oh! Shit, now I got to clean this up.”
And “Yes! I know Ma! You told me so!”
Here is a list of my mom’s top fives that I use too:
“I told you so!”
“Wait until Daddy gets home.”
“Because Mommy said so”
“Finish what’s on your plate.”
“Call me so I know you’re okay.” (Ok she still makes me do this all the time)
What were some of the mommy phrases you heard growing up?