Five Parenting Lessons
If you are just starting out on your parenthood journey (this post applies to moms and dads equally) I am hoping you will read this and take a cue from my errors. Sometimes two is my favorite age ever and sometimes not so much!
1. Pick your battles wisely. On any given day, there will be multiple encounters, while you have a limited amount of energy, your toddler (who frequently recharges with naps) can unleash mayhem without much effort. Decide on your priorities and don’t sweat the small stuff. For e.g. with me pants are negotiable, underwear is not. How much TV she watches is negotiable but what she watches is not.
2. “We are watching you”- it’s not just the aliens who are watching you but also your toddler. If you want them to do/say something it means YOU have to do it and if you don’t want them to do/say something, then YOU have to stop saying it too. Don’t want you kid to say “shit” better stop saying it yourself! I didn’t realize how often I said it until my two year old started repeating it. I stopped-she stopped.
3. All it takes is once-If your child is too young to know what an iphone/android/smartphone is, you should soak in the happiness (yes it is) that comes with answering calls in peace, playing solitaire uninterrupted and even random texting. Remember that there will be a day when you don’t have it in you to read one more book, or do one more coloring sheet or play with the train set one more time and you will give in to letting her play with your phone. Also remember this will be the absolute last time you will not be getting mauled each time you pull out your phone.
4. This too shall pass- don’t mean to get preachy on you, but if there is one thing that is true about toddlers, is that whatever they are doing this week- you can be sure they won’t do it the next. In fact whatever extremely distressing emotion they are going through right now, will completely change in the next 15 minutes. When you learn to look at it from that perspective, even the tantrums start seeming comical.
5. Lastly, there are two kinds of cops in every house. The good cop and the bad cop. I am the bad cop. The bad cop gets yelled at, run away from and sometimes beaten up. The good cop gets hugs, run towards and mostly kissed. Never be the bad cop!