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Five Parenting Lessons

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If you are just starting out on your parenthood journey (this post applies to moms and dads equally) I am hoping you will read this and take a cue from my errors. Sometimes two is my favorite age ever and sometimes not so much!

1. Pick your battles wisely. On any given day, there will be multiple encounters, while you have a limited amount of energy, your toddler (who frequently recharges with naps) can unleash mayhem without much effort. Decide on your priorities and don’t sweat the small stuff. For e.g. with me pants are negotiable, underwear is not. How much TV she watches is negotiable but what she watches is not.

2. “We are watching you”- it’s not just the aliens who are watching you but also your toddler. If you want them to do/say something it means YOU have to do it and if you don’t want them to do/say something, then YOU have to stop saying it too. Don’t want you kid to say “shit” better stop saying it yourself! I didn’t realize how often I said it until my two year old started repeating it. I stopped-she stopped.

3. All it takes is once-If your child is too young to know what an iphone/android/smartphone is, you should soak in the happiness (yes it is) that comes with answering calls in peace, playing solitaire uninterrupted and even random texting. Remember that there will be a day when you don’t have it in you to read one more book, or do one more coloring sheet or play with the train set one more time and you will give in to letting her play with your phone. Also remember this will be the absolute last time you will not be getting mauled each time you pull out your phone.

4. This too shall pass- don’t mean to get preachy on you, but if there is one thing that is true about toddlers, is that whatever they are doing this week- you can be sure they won’t do it the next. In fact whatever extremely distressing emotion they are going through right now, will completely change in the next 15 minutes. When you learn to look at it from that perspective, even the tantrums start seeming comical.

5. Lastly, there are two kinds of cops in every house. The good cop and the bad cop. I am the bad cop. The bad cop gets yelled at, run away from and sometimes beaten up. The good cop gets hugs, run towards and mostly kissed. Never be the bad cop!

And remember to have fun!


13 Comments Post a comment
  1. I love that last picture.
    I bet you are a great mom.
    *kisses* H

    October 22, 2013
    • I love it too. It’s so much fun because my daughter is usually being a total goof ball on most days. I was lucky to capture it that day.

      October 23, 2013
  2. I am the bad cop all the time. This is because I haven’t yet learned to pick my battles. It’s not looking promising as I’m 8 years into it!

    PS: I agree with Heavenly. :)

    October 22, 2013
    • Sigh, You and me both Ameena. When will we ever learn!
      Thank you for the vote of confidence ladies! Heaven and Heavenly ;) both know I need it.

      October 23, 2013
  3. So true !! I’m bad cop too :)

    October 22, 2013
    • Being the bad cop sucks! But yet that’s what most moms are!

      October 23, 2013
  4. Aparna Avasarala #

    Guess the mothers end up being the bad cop because the dads will never spoiling their image in their kid’s eyes …They love spoiling them and get lavished with all the love where as moms are left to contend with the ‘dirty looks’!
    P.S. Awesome pic!

    October 22, 2013
    • Yup you’re right. Image control is what it’s about with the dads. They just have this crazy need to be the cool ones all the time.
      Thanks for reading Aparna!

      October 23, 2013
  5. Oh #3! How I wish for the day when I could mess around on my phone :) These days, my phone is riddled with alphabet and number applications and covered with sticky paw prints. Is 2 too young to get them their own phone? I kid (sort of).

    October 24, 2013
    • Even if you do get your phone. I assure you, neither of them will be yours. EVER :)

      October 30, 2013
  6. *sigh* I end up being the bad cop most of the time!!

    October 24, 2013
  7. Somehow, I find it difficult to “believe” that mom’s are usually the bad cop but it’s the truth. Sigh :D

    October 28, 2013

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